Dr. Boss' Interviews and Writings About Malaysia Airlines Flight 370


Grieving the Unknown: Families of the Missing Face Painful Limbo

NBCnews.com, Melissa Dahl, March 12

The Flight 370 Paradox: How Do You Mourn a Missing Person?
The Daily Beast, Abby Haglage, March 15


When Loved Ones Go Missing, Ambiguity Can Hold Grief Captive

NPR, All Things Considered, March 15

Families in "Frozen" State
CTV News Channel, March 17

The Pain of Flight MH370 Lies in Its Ambiguity, Op Ed by Pauline Boss
The Guardian, March 18

Relatives of Passengers on Missing Jet Face Different Stages of Grief
NBCnews.com, Elisha Fieldstadt, March 21

For Flight 370 Families, Loved Ones Forever Missing
The Takeaway, John Hockenberry, March 24

How Do You Mourn a Missing Person?

BBC News Online Magazine, Tanvi Misra, March 24

How Do You Grieve Those Lost -- Mudslide or Missing Airliner?
MPR, The Daily Circuit, Tom Weber, March 31

Agony, But No Answers for Flight 370 Families
CNN News, Interview Transcript, April 1 (Dr. Boss' interview appears 2/3 way into transcript.)

How to Support Families Dealing With Ambiguous Loss
CEHD Vision 2020 Blog, April 3

Living in Limbo

CNN News, April 4 (Dr. Boss' interview appears at approximately "6:35 a.m." in video link.)

BBC Radio
April 10 (Dr. Boss' interview starts at 13:08 into the 5 Live Show.)

Dr. Boss consults with therapists in Kuala Lumpur via SKYPE
on March 16.


Additional Interview About the Physically Missing

Living in Limbo: Grieving Gets Tougher When There's No Body To Bury
CNN, Moni Basu, April 13, Interview with Donna Carnes

AARP Magazine Interview with Dr. Boss
The Lost: Living with Ambiguous Loss

August - September 2014

Upcoming Engagements

April 1, 2016

Ackerman Institute for the Family

New York City

Registration Information

April 13, 2015, 1:30-5 pm
Workshop:  Ambiguous Loss & the Myth of Closure
Association for Death Education and Counseling (ADEC) Annual Conference
Minneapolis, MN

Registration information

Latest Book!

Pauline Boss's most recent book is Loving Someone Who Has Dementia:  How to Find Hope While Coping With Stress and Grief (Jossey-Bass, 2011). Read more and order.

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German translation now available. Read more and order.


Other Available Books

Loss, Trauma, and Resilience,
W. W. Norton, 2006
Descriptions, reviews, and order information

Ambiguous Loss,
Harvard University Press, 1999
Description, reviews, and order information

Family Stress, Classic and Contemporary Readings,
Sage Publications, 2003
Description, reviews, and order information

Family Stress Management,
Sage Publications, 2002
Description, reviews, and order information


Recent Articles by Dr. Boss & Additional Readings

Beyond the Field: Dealing with Ambiguous Loss. Huffpost Religion (2/20/16) by Tammy McLeod, Harvard Chaplian, Director of College Ministry for Park Street Church. 

Boss, P., & Ishii, C. (2015). Trauma and Ambiguous Loss: The Lingering Presence of the Physically Absent. In K. Cherry (Ed.), Traumatic Stress and Long-term Recovery (pp. 271-289). Cham, Switzerland: Springer International. Description and order information.

Boss, P. (2015).  On the Usefulness of Theory: Applying Family Therapy and Family Science to the Relational Developmental Systems Metamodel.  Journal of Family Theory & Review, 7(2), 105-108. Description and order information.


Boss, P. (2015).  Coping with the Suffering of Ambiguous Loss.  In R. E. Anderson (Ed.), World Suffering and the Quality of Life (pp. 125-134).  New York: Springer.  Description and order information.

Boss, P., & Yeats, J. (2014). Ambiguous Loss: A Complicated Type of Grief When Loved Ones Disappear. Bereavement Care, Volume 33, pp. 63-69. Description and order information.


Boss, P. (2014). Family Stress. In A. C. Michalos (Ed.), Encyclopedia of Quality of Life and Well-being Research (pp. 2202-2208).  Dordrecht, Netherlands: Springer.  Description and order information.


Boss, P., & Dahl, C. M. (2014).  Family Therapy for the Unresolved Grief of Ambiguous Loss.  In D. W. Kissane & F. Parnes (Eds.), Bereavement Care for Families (pp. 171–182).  New York:  Routledge. Description and order information.

Boss, P. (2012).  The Myth of Closure.  Family Process, Volume 51, Issue 4, pp. 437-587.  Description and order information.

Boss, P. (2012).  Resilience as Tolerance for Ambiguity.  In D. S. Becvar (Ed.), Handbook of Family Resilience (pp.  285-297). New York: Springer. 
Description and order information.

Boss, P. (2012).  The Ambiguous Loss of Dementia:  A Relational View of Complicated Grief in Caregivers.  In M. O’Reilly-Landry (Ed.),  A Psychodynamic Understanding of Modern Medicine:  Placing the Person at the Center of Care.  London:  Radcliffe.
Description and order information.

I Am Here to Hear Your Story:  A student and expert on ambiguous loss reach out in the wake of a triple disaster.

Connect (Spring/Summer 2012), College of Education and Human Development, University of Minnesota

Read here.

For Caregivers of Spouses with Dementia, A Redefinition of Marriage

Next Avenue (May 8, 2012)
Read here.

Selected Publications

Caregiving and Ambiguous Loss:  Fact Sheet

This fact sheet was prepared by Family Caregiver Alliance in cooperation with California's Caregiver Resource Centers. Written by Pauline Boss for Family Caregiver Alliance. Read here.

Boss, P., Roos, S., Harris, D. L. (2011).  Grief in the Midst of Uncertainty and Ambiguity. In R. A. Neimeyer, D. L. Harris, H. R. Winokuer, & G. F. Thornton (Eds.), Grief and Bereavement in Contemporary Society:  Bridging Research and Practice (pp. 163-175).  New York:  Taylor and Francis.  Click here for more information.

Boss, P. (2010). The Trauma and Complicated Grief of Ambiguous Loss.  Pastoral Psychology. doi: 10.1007/s11089-009-0264-0. Go to:  http://www.springerlink.com/content/y161224247v4712w/

Dunn, S. (2009, January).  When the Roof Falls In. O, The Oprah Magazine.
Go to http://www.oprah.com/article/omagazine/200901_omag_change_happens

Boss, P. (2008, September).  Family focus on . . . Adoption:  Rethinking adoptions that dissolve:  What we need to know about research, practice, policies--and attitudes.  National Council on Family Relations Report, FF39, F5-F7, F19. For more information, go to http://www.ncfr.org/.

The Measurement of Boundary Ambiguity in Families (Minnesota Agricultural Experiment Station, 1990) manual by Pauline Boss, Jan. R. Greenberg, and Debra Pearce-McCall is now available online. Go to: http://www.extension.umn.edu/family/parents-forever/docs/03763full.pdf

Sourcebook of Family Theories and Methods by Pauline Boss, William J. Doherty, Ralph LaRossa, Walter R. Schumm, and Suzanne K. Steinmetz is now available in softcover (Springer, 2009).   For more information, go to http://www.springer.com/psychology/counseling/book/978-0-387-85763.

Boss, P. (2007).  Guest Editor, Ambiguous Loss and Boundary Ambiguity [Special Issue].  Family Relations, 56(2). Ambiguous Loss Theory:  Challenges for Scholars and Practitioners.  Family Relations, 56(2), pages 105-11  For more information, go to http://www3.interscience.wiley.com/journal/117997763/issue

Additional Interviews

Ambiguous Loss. Dr. Gloria Horsley, President of the Open to Hope Foundation, discusses ambiguous loss with Dr. Boss at the 2011 Association of Death Education and Counseling Conference.   View here.

Living With Dementia. Margaret Cochran, Ph.D., Whole Brain Thinking:  Wisdom, Love, & Magic interviews Dr. Boss about her new book, Loving Someone Who has Dementia. Listen here.

Ambiguous loss and the intersection of research and clinical work.  Interview with Steven Harris, Professor & Director, Marriage and Family Therapy Program, University of Minnesota. View You Tube video -- Part One. Part 2. Part 3.

Pauline Boss on Ambiguous Loss. View the National Conference on Family Relations You Tube Video of the Week.

How a Theory is Born:  A Conversation with Pauline Boss.  National Conference on Family Relations Members' Stories.  Nancy Gonzales, Interviewer.  Read here.

9/11 Familes Discover Mixed Emotions. View Dr. Boss' interview (May 3,2011) with Kare 11 TV (Minneapolis/St. Paul).

Recent Engagements

December 10, 2015, 8:30-10:30 am
Mental Health Outcomes of Youth of an Incarcerated Parent
Forum hosted by Strengthening Families Affected by Incarceration Collaborative

Wilder Center

St. Paul, Minnesota

October 29, 2015

Keynote:  "The Inevitability of Ambiguous Loss in Change and Transition"
Minnesota Association for Marriage and Family Therapy

Brooklyn Park, Minnesota


October 2, 2015
Workshop: "Loss, Trauma, and Resilience: The Myth of Closure with Ambiguous Loss"
Unversity of Illinois-Springfield
Springfield, Illinois

April 21, 2015
Webinar: Helping Families Learn to Live With Ambiguous Loss
National Council on Family Relations (NCFR)

February 27, 2015
Workshop: Ambiguous Loss:  Treating Grief That Defies Closure
Adelphi University
Garden City, New York

March 6, 2015
Workshop: Ambiguous Loss and the Myth of Closure
Ackerman Institute for the Family
New York City

April 11, 2014
NASW, Iowa Chapter Annual Symposium
Workshop: "Ambiguous Loss: A Framework for Working with
  Complicated Loss and Grief"
Des Moines, IA

March 21, 2014

Workshop: "Ambiguous Loss:  Treating Grief That Has No Closure"

Ackerman Institute for the Family
New York City

February 21, 2014

Speaker:  "Ambiguous Loss: Why Closure is a Myth"
Oklahoma State University in Tulsa Research Day
Tulsa, OK

December 2, 2013

Families and Well-Being Seminar
Center for Child & Family Well-Being

School of Human Ecology
University of Wisconsin-Madison
Madison, Wisconsin
Learn more here.

November 5-9, 2013

National Council on Family Relations

 Annual Conference

San Antonio, Texas
Learn more here.


View a clip from Dr. Boss'  "Myth of Closure: What is Normal Grief After Loss, Clear or Ambiguous? "
Presented at the National Conference on Family Relations (NCFR) Annual meeting on November 8, 2013.



June 20, 2013
International Family Nursing Association

Minneapolis, Minnesota

Learn more here.

June 17, 2013

Alzheimer Society of Cornwall & District

Cornwall, Ontario


April 18, 2013
Zurich Memory Clinic

Workshop:  Search for Meaning and Hope in Caregiving
Zurich, Switzerland

April 19, 2013

Zurich Memory Clinic

Public Lecture:  Loving Someone Who Has Dementia
Zurich, Switzerland

April 22, 2013
Swiss Red Cross, Tracing Service

Workshop - Loss, Trauma, and Resilience:  Coping With

 Ambiguous Loss
(Workshop by invitation only.)
Bern, Switzerland
For more information, contact:  tracing@redcross.ch.

April 10, 2013
Hamm Clinic
Workshop: Ambiguous Loss:  A New Lens for Working With
 Complicated Grief and Loss
St. Paul, Minnesota